Monday, March 31, 2008

Female Flirtation

Interesting article: students at Indiana University “were shown photographs of women and asked to categorise them as friendly, sexually interested, sad or rejecting. The male students were far less accurate than the females at interpreting the body language, and were particularly baffled by the difference between flirty and friendly gestures.”
The researchers also found that women overestimate men's ability to pick up on sexual signals. They argue that many females wrongly believe that the men are well aware of their attempts to woo, but are just not interested in responding. In contrast, women are very aware that males get the wrong end of the stick when they are simply being friendly.

Best- selling author Kathy Lette said the research proved that women are far more fluent in body language. "It is really confusing for women," she said. "The average bloke either doesn't realise that we fancy him until we are giving birth to his children in the labour ward; or he presumes all women fancy him all the time.”
Comments:

Jamesinthegiantpeach in the UK, chimes in, saying: “Many men would rather just ignore the signs women throw out than misinterpret them and risk getting into trouble. Women, if you want sex or whatever, don't play these stupid games, tell the guy I think you're hot and get on with it.”

Edward from London says: “The other way of interpreting this is that women are not very good at communicating clearly. The dysfunction in communication is generally the sender's responsibility, not the receivers.”

So what's the deal? I personally never had trouble like this, so perhaps men are stupid and can be criticized for never "closing," but let's hear from some women about this.


4 comments:

Anonymous said...

Cavewoman #1:" Why do you stay with that brute?"
Cavewoman #2: "Beats me."

Anonymous said...

This is why I just have gay sex with other men... men are easy.

http://big-chief.tumblr.com/ said...

Glad to see this helpful little article COMPLETELY DISREGARDS the many kinds of flirting in which women engage and the concomitantly confused signals that men are forced to interpret like the blue-skinned static-moans of so many scrambled Playboy channels.
Like maybe she's flirting with one "bloke" b/c the bloke she really fancies isn't paying any attention and it's making her insecure.

Or maybe she's flirting in an attempt to make one of her girlfriends "have fun" and thus they can remember THAT AWESOME NIGHT where the boys were paying attention to them and thus ease their constant insecurity. or maybe she harbors deep-seeded fears of abandonment from her father and so she flirts with ALL men ALL THE TIME (despite the social fissures that arise from such irresponsible activity) just to make herself feel like she isn't so insecure.

Or maybe she feels FAT despite all evidence to the contrary and needs male attention (not necessarily sex) to ease her fat-insecurity. OR maybe she's flirting in an attempt to control the attention-rays from all the available males b/c there is a "rogue female" in the group who needs to be taught the social hierarchy (or said rogue-female is threatening the dominant female of the group who is no doubt painfully insecure).

Or maybe she had too much to drink (in an attempt to feel less insecure) and not entirely aware of her signals. or maybe she is flirting in an attempt to attract the sexual attention of the dominant male, or one of his socially-acceptable cohorts because doing so would ease her pathological sense of insecurity.

Throw into the mix all her cock-blocking fattys, hags, lady-boys and male competitors (along with perhaps a gauntlet of male interference-runners and a healthy buzz from all the alcohol you're forced to consume at these social events) and one can see how males are forced to adopt either the carpet-bomb strategy ("all females fancy me"), the buddha's-palm technique ("if she touches one of my pectoral muscles she fancies me") or the surgical-strike ("hey, female informant/associate, do you think female attention-object fancies me?").

Of course, maybe she is one of those mythical "strong women" who experience NONE of these deep, culturally and physically entrenched social behaviors that have been elaborated over millions of years and who is TOTALLY SECURE WITH HERSELF and her social position. We call those women UNICORNS.

Anonymous said...

I totally would date women if I could get a free CD Rom and a Starbucks card! Excellent!

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